Too Sharp
Yesterday, we went to JB , Malaysia for a day trip. Well, the ladies went for shopping, me and another guy got nothing to do and wondered in the shopping mall. Finally we sat down and had a good guy talk.
He is older than me, and definitely wiser. We talked a lot, especially about my "non-existing" relationship. We got the conclusion that I am too sharp to communicate, maybe that's the failure of my relationship with other girl..., including my sister. I am too sharp to spot problems, too sharp to speak, too sharp to word exact meaning. It's so hard for others to talk with me... Although I tried my best to word my sentence gently.. but the fact is still revealing and the truth is still hurting. I guess it's because my profession trains me well in giving proofs and arguement, maybe I am like Paul.
I just hope to build a Christian family that bases on God's Words and guidance. It does not mean there is no love element. I strongly believe that love is built on truth. If there is no truth, then we are not sinning and Jesus' sacrifice is worthless, thus, His love is nothing.. We are loved because He is willing to choose 'love', without trading off truth. So Jesus had to do in the hard way, dying with humiliation that He didn't deserve. Well I guess we try to get around with it for the easy way. When the truth is not revealed, there is nothing to change and nothing wrong...
Then how to be loving upon truth depends on wisdom, I will say divine wisdom. Anyway, it's too far for me to say these now.
However, in Proverbs, it says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." I guess people just don't like the heat and conflicts that hurt. However, I cannot stand myself to be rusty and blunt. I guess that is where sin comes from. When Abraham was blur and had a son with Hagar by Sarah's suggestion, also you can name so many examples in the Bible when we do not remind each other because of fear and cause problems.
Jesus told us to remove the plank of our own eyes first, but He did told us to remove the speck of sawdust from our brother at last. I guess accusing others of 'judging' is abused sometime. Yes, we should not judge others, but we should remind each other to live a godly lives. We are responsible for others as well.
"The spiritual man makes judgments about all things."
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Proverbs 27:5
Open rebuke is better than secret love.
Amen! how can I forget this.
That's nice, on one side, it's possible that it's only true for me, myself. However, on the otherside, it may also be true for the bible. I guess the only measurement we can do is going back to Bible. Also note that whenever someone cannot accept some comments of others, he may also blame that it's just a personal opinion rather than the truth of bible in order to deny the truth. That's why we should have both equipped with the knowledge of God as Paul said in Hebrews, plus the heart of loving and boldness. Of course, a submissive and teachable heart to accept what the Bible says.
For example, even for myself, it was hard for me to reduce jokes on others, but Bible says:
"Like a madman shooting firebrands or deadly arrows is a man who deceives his neighbor and says, "I was only joking!" Proverbs 21:18-19
I didn't like it at the first place, but Bible said it, what can i do? I lost all the fun and cannot get attention and welcome of people anymore.
Of course I am aware of possibilities of being wrong as well. However, if we do not experience mistakes, how can we get closer to God? We cannot just hide from behind and make everyone feel happy. That's what the sacular world do. Make everyone happy and "tolerant" everything. We Christians do NOT tolerant (according to my old pastors). We accept sinners but reject sins.
"Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for that is how their fathers treated the false prophets."
I don't mean everyone being spoke well is bad, but the opposite is not true neither..
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